I am going to ask a question to you… you may not have ever really thought about the answer, or maybe you have in great depth.
What does losing weight mean to you? Why do you (like many of us) strive to do it?
This can actually be a loaded question. I will speak from experience when I say that I wanted to lose weight simply because I wanted to LOOK better. The thought of being healthy or feeling better wasn’t in the equation… except that I thought I would feel better about myself if I lost some poundage. Well, let me tell you… if I could go back to the weight I was when I still wanted to lose 10 pounds, I’d be quite content with that now. I look at pictures of myself in my 20’s and wonder what I really saw in the mirror then? like really I was in shape, ate well and was probably 15 pounds lighter than I am now and I still thought I NEEDED to lose weight to be attractive! ( a short term boyfriend who told me I was fat and had jiggly parts may have cemented that thought in my head, hahaha).
I have since gained some self confidence and realized that when I focus more on the being healthy and active part of life, I feel better physically and mentally. Being nicer to my body… like verbally nicer has helped too. We gotta be careful what we speak over ourselves… try being your biggest cheerleader instead of your worst enemy! Build yourself and others up, get some people around you who are up beat and want you to succeed, not who are waiting for you to fail… who don’t give you the ‘ole up and down judging what your wearing and how it looks on you. This may sound off topic, but no it’s not… When you like yourself enough to love yourself, you will do all you can to keep yourself healthy and happy, that means going to that exercise class when you don’t really feel like it, or a walk or not eating that 2nd piece of cake simply because its there. When you change your focus, and want to get healthy, not look good so certain people (or a person) will ‘like’ you or accept you… that is the meaning we should aim for.
So, lets not care about fake, trying to get approval people… not worth it!
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So tell me, are you one of those people that can truly say you love what you do? Like it doesn’t feel like work? If you are…Awesome! good for you! Grab that and go man!
For the rest of us, what do we do? Not to say that you hate what your doing, but it pays the bills, you have friends there, it challenges you (kind of), your so good at it now why look for something else? Ok, so I am kind of talking from experience here… I do like what I do, yes I’ve got friends there and yes, I am good at it! But… something is missing… it just doesn’t seem to fill that … I don’t even really know, just that hmmm… hunger? maybe, that feeling inside that I am not doing exactly what I could be doing? that feeling of fulfilment is not quite as fulfilling now.
We all grow, all at different rates and we all find our Passion at different times. Thats it, that passion that once was there is now not so passionate. I believe that everything, every experience in our lives helps us grow and figure ourselves out. Maybe some of us aare more atuned to it than others. Maybe some of us simply do not want grow and are happy with that… whatever. But I am at the point where I am not happy with what I am doing, I need a change because I feel like I can and want to grow into something else. (I have been on Mat leave 3 times in the last 41/2 years and each time missed an opportunity for change within my work place). Does this make any sense?
The problem? change is scary! Who knows if it will work? and can you imagine having to go back to where you are now… tail between legs and head down. Well for starters: to grow we must get out of our comfort zone. second: If you do come back to where you are now, you will still have grown and learnt from the experiecne. and third: You will never know if you don’t try!
So the clincher is to actually find that passion, what is burning in you to get out? If you were able to do anything in the world and would make a living at it, what would that be? … That is your God given passion and that is what we all need to find in ourselves.