What Really Goes on Behind Your Closed Door?

by admin on October 21, 2014

bigstock old red wood gate 54419516 150x150 What Really Goes on Behind Your Closed Door?So today lets talk about a big hush, hush topic… what really goes on in your house behind closed doors.  Why is it that we feel the need to act as if our lives are perfect? “I never yell at my kids, all 3 sleep soundly for 12 hours (and have since birth), I always have a 3 course meal on the table for dinner, my husband and I communicate wonderfully, I am the head of our PTA and work full time”… right!  Ha… I call your BS!  That seems to be the era that my Mom (God bless her, she is a wonderful mother and grandmother) grew up in.  Full time Mom and full time career, taking kids to and fro and doing it all seemlessly…

Did you know that talking, not complaining or bitching, but talking is really healthy.  Understanding where both sides are coming from, needing, or wanting.  Because when you are in relationship with someone, you are both wanting whats best for the other… right?  I recently wrote a post on communication and action… well, that communication should be the truth.  If you’ve had a hard day, when you need alone time… say it!

“Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.” (James 1:19)

My husband and I had a little tiff today, I needed a break, plain and simple… “if I am going to stay sane, I need a break from our children” Now I love my kids, more than words can say, but I was getting extremely tired of yelling.  They have pushed me to my limit… and I am not embarressed to admit that.  To the point that I was in tears, looking around the messy house and hearing all 3 children needing me in some capacity.  I NEED A BREAK!

If you think less of me, that’s your issue… I am not pretending that motherhood is easy or enjoyable all the time. I am not pretending that my husband and I get along wonderfully 24/7.  I am not pretending that we eat healthy sit down dinners every night either.  Enough with the facades!

The problem with these facades?  We hear them and then believe that we are not as good as that mother/parent.  We hear them and immediately think that our children are not having the wonderful life they deserve.  We hear them and believe that our spouse is not happy with us.

Lets just stop… And instead lift each other up with encouragement!

Thats the rant for today… lets hear it, think i’m out to lunch?

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Your Teens and Their Health

by admin on October 14, 2014

bigstock Teenagers Eating Burgers 5041025 150x150 Your Teens and Their HealthThe teenage years can be difficult ones, just thinking of my own… my children are not there yet.  What I remember of mine, growing up with 2 older sisters and all of us having our own activities to do, is that it was hard to remember to eat well sometimes.  My mom always had a good healthy dinner on the table, but lunch time was a different sotry.  Once we were in high school, driving ourselves and working at fast food joints (I really enjoyed my first job, so much fun! and you got food at half price man!), I hate to admit or even think about for that matter, just how much grease I consumed in those years.  It was hard to eat really healthy,  because I just didn’t really think about it too much.

The fact of the matter is though that getting on a healthy regime can never start to early.

If you can relate to this with your own children, you gotta read this post … here is the link


When your done there, check this out too: marlaneufeld.usana.com

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Listen and then Action!

October 9, 2014

Have you ever looked at your friends and thought ‘wow, they have it all together! Everyone seems so happy, how do they do it?’  but when you ask they don’t agree… but you still see them as picture perfect?  Well, my husband and I have friends who I thought this about… and then they had […]

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We all need a little change

October 2, 2014

Do you ever feel like you need a change? And do you think that it needs to be a BIG change? I do on occasion. So today I really needed to vacuum, like really… one of those things where you do everything else but… anyways I pulled the vacuum out and walked around it for […]

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You gotta Trust the Parent, we are avoiding a Meltdown!

September 25, 2014

You know in some grocery stores the bakery hands out a free cookie to kids?  When I was young our local meat store would give us a wiener!  They don’t do that anymore.  Any ways… I always go by our bakery while I am grocery shopping with all 3 kids and the 2 bigger ones […]

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No Conforming! Let them be Them!

September 23, 2014

So the other day my husband came in from work and I was feeding Jace, my baby… loudly.  The other 2 boys were playing nicely, but loudly.  Now when I say I was feeding Jace loudly, what I mean is I was doing the airplane with his spoon and in between that, singing what I […]

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‘Do you like me?’… Really!

September 2, 2014

I was talking to one of my sisters the other day and some how we got on the topic of making friends as adults.  “It’s so easy when we are kids”, she said “You don’t even think about it… I like you, we are friends now”.  Obviously she simplified this, and after some sisterly jibbing, […]

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Be Nice to Yourself!

July 28, 2014

So I think that I may have stumbled upon something that may actually be worth trying … I am being nice to my body!  Now its not like I was physically mean to it before, just maybe verbally mean.   I am actually thinking nice thoughts about it now!  here’s how it goes … instead […]

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‘Falling off the wagon’

July 7, 2014

“falling off the wagon”… Who has done it?  I sure have, and continue to… regarding proper eating and exercising that is.  Everything seems to be rolling along fine and then out of nowhere the routine gets disrupted… and it seems so hard to get back on that cycle again. Ok, so what do you need […]

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Alternatives to Sugar… Do You Know What One To Choose?

June 19, 2014

So what is up with sugar?  Is it as bad as I am hearing? Lots of people are trying out different types of sweeteners the problem? Not too many of those people are doing their research first, simply getting overwhelmed and not knowing what to use and what to stay clear of. I came across […]

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