‘Do you like me?’… Really!

by admin on September 2, 2014

in a box 150x150 Do you like me?... Really!I was talking to one of my sisters the other day and some how we got on the topic of making friends as adults.  “It’s so easy when we are kids”, she said “You don’t even think about it… I like you, we are friends now”.  Obviously she simplified this, and after some sisterly jibbing, I agreed.  Just days earlier I had been thinking that I don’t seem to make friends easily.  I have certainly made friends in the last 5 years… through my children… and these are some of my good friends now.  But I realized that many of this group of ladies were Really good friends… I didn’t really fit into that… why?

I think I have know this about myself for a while: I keep people at a distance!  Because if you get to know the ‘real me’ you may think that person is odd?  You may not agree with how I live my life?  So, I have learned to bring people into my world only so far and sometimes not being true to who I really am.

This was a massive revelation to me!  I have actually been thinking that I am so over that… if you don’t like me, whatever… see ya!  What I had just realized was that to a certain point, I do still wonder and am bothered if someone doesn’t ‘like me’, or better yet if they … APPROVE  of me.

As children we haven’t learned to muffle our true selves ‘so that people will like me’.  We are who we are, take it or leave it.  Why as we get olderdo we start caring what others opinions are of what we do, wear, say, who hang out with.  Unfortunately it is not a quick fix, it may take time and it will take conscious effort.  But oh man it will be worth it.  Imagine living free from of others judgments… because that is what it is, judgments.

If we were all to stop trying to fit into the same box and instead bring our own box to be ourselves in, imagine what a cool world this would be!

 

I wish you to be free of judgments, because you can live a life of freedom too.

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Be Nice to Yourself!

by admin on July 28, 2014

iStock 000018823452Small 150x150 Be Nice to Yourself!So I think that I may have stumbled upon something that may actually be worth trying … I am being nice to my body!  Now its not like I was physically mean to it before, just maybe verbally mean.   I am actually thinking nice thoughts about it now!  here’s how it goes … instead of looking in the mirror and being like “if i could just get like an inch off here and flatten the tummy and squish my hips in a little, lose some of that jiggle …” Who hasn’t done this? right ladies.   Now I look in the mirror and am like “wow my husband is lucky to have such a hottie for a wife! look at those women curves!”  What has this done for me?  Now I am only concerned that my clothes look nice, not that I look thin… no more trying to hide the tummy puff or the thunder thighs(which we all know is  futile at best).  This is not to say that I still don’t want to firm that tummy up, I’ve had 3 kids, it can use some firming up for sure.  The difference now is that I do not have ridiculous expectations of what my body ‘should’ look like.  I am 36 with a 4 year old,2 year old and 5 month old … My body will not be my 20 year old self anymore, and that is OK!

Why do I feel the need to share this private matter with you?  Because I know like the sky is blue that I am not the only one who has this problem.  Only looking at what you think is the negative about your body, no good.  Start changing your tune.  What you speak will come to pass.

I am not saying to just let everything go and whatever, no… just dont be so mean to yourself.  Think of all your body has done for you, and like they say… it is the only one you’ll get so take care of it.  If you have a few pounds you want to drop, awesome!  fly at’er, just be nice about it.

Positive thoughts peeps, they make a difference.

Take care

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‘Falling off the wagon’

July 7, 2014

“falling off the wagon”… Who has done it?  I sure have, and continue to… regarding proper eating and exercising that is.  Everything seems to be rolling along fine and then out of nowhere the routine gets disrupted… and it seems so hard to get back on that cycle again. Ok, so what do you need […]

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Alternatives to Sugar… Do You Know What One To Choose?

June 19, 2014

So what is up with sugar?  Is it as bad as I am hearing? Lots of people are trying out different types of sweeteners the problem? Not too many of those people are doing their research first, simply getting overwhelmed and not knowing what to use and what to stay clear of. I came across […]

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I Heard Myself Coming Out Of My Child!

June 12, 2014

You know that moment when you hear yourself coming out of your child?  Its happened, and he is only 4!  Now granted he is an older brother to 2… but wow… I literally stopped in my tracks.  The first thing that came to my mind was  “holy I sound like a b*%#*!”  he even had […]

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It ‘Should’ Be This Way… Are You One Of Them?

June 5, 2014

I had an epiphany this morning… We woke up to snow!  yes, June and it is snowing.  As I was reading all of the FB posts of disgust in my feed, I realized that I often get mad at situations that ‘should’ be this way or ‘should’ be that way.  Like “it should be a […]

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Exercising as a Mom

May 30, 2014

Life can be challenging as a parent, especially when you are trying to get some exercise into your day.  Depending on how old your children are of course.  There is that age when they want to do it all themselves, buuutttt… they just aren’t quite big enough to yet.  Right?  Don’t fret, don’t get mad, […]

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Parenting Instincts

May 26, 2014

Do you remember what it felt like just before you had your first, or only child?  Or are you about to have a child?  Remember all of those questions and fears? I sure do… It doesn’t go away either, with each pregnancy different fears leak their way into your head.  Why!  We all have a […]

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Personalities and children

May 22, 2014

Morning!  I find it kind of cute when people start telling you about their children… knowing you have some yourself because they are looking at them.  They look at the first-born or middle child and start in on the birth order personality traits.  Like this morning I was in the grocery store.. again… and the […]

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PATIENCE!

May 19, 2014

Patience… something I realized I had little of until I became a parent, that is.   Now it is a part of my everyday, every waking minute of my day actually… Am I right?   If I am not reminding myself to be patient… “he is learning, he is learning, he is learning…” (a mantra […]

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